Love Rules !

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The 1st week of January 2018 has ended and today start the second week of the January. On Saturday the whole day, I was having company conference event to kick-start the year 2018. This year, our company will be focusing more on innovation and customer relationship. Is a full day conference from 8.00am to 8.00pm. Too many information flowing and I am trying to absorb all. After the 4th speaker, I started to lost concentration and there is where my old habit, taking photos. Took a picture of my Benjamin and Microsoft Cloud plushie. This is to avoid I fall asleep. Just wanted to share the image because is cute =)

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In the year 2018, I will want to focus more on healthy living and healthy relationship. Today, I was reading an article from Health & Nutrition magazine, January 2018. They are discussing Love Rules Resolutions as listed below. I take this chance to review the Love Rules Resolutions for myself.

1. Spend More Time Actually Being Together

-Put all your digital accessories aside and really spend time together, talk to each other and have some little love chat. I think we have not been doing this well as we both are always in our digital life.

2. Be In The Moment

– When we are together, we always got this little problem where we are worried about future. He is planning for his own small business plan and normally there will be a concern about our future planning where it will result in a little de-motivation mood. I will always encourage him not to have negative thought because it will stop him from moving to a bigger plan. I will prefer we enjoy whatever we have at this moment because time flies, we will never go back the same day as today.

3. Kick Off An Aventure, TOGETHER

– This is the resolution that I really wanted to start this year because we both hardly go out together and we hardly sign up for any adventurous activity. The problem with both of us is that we do not like noisy and crowded places. That is why we will always end up staying at home. We really need to start doing something new every month.

4. Turn Arguments Into Conversation Rather Than Competitions

– That is why many couples will end with break-up /divorced if is long term because of Ego, both wanted to be the winner. For this, I think we both are doing well, normally I will try to walk away first when the “pot” is still hot, once the “pot” has cool down, we will discuss the matters that arise that also lead to arguments.

5. Quit The Blame Game

– Yes. I am taking this resolution very seriously now. I have been with my husband for 11 years before I decided to marry him. Of course, along with the journey, I did try to change him and sometimes, I do blame him for not being caring and detail. Now, after I get myself involve with Master Sun, The Superlife Secret Codes, I learn to say the word “I” instead of “You”. I still learning and trying to change my mindset and my approach. Still trying hard and I hope things will change later future.

6. Think Positive

– Every time when things do not go the way I wanted, I will sometimes get frustrated and end up I will be absorbing negative energy. Most of the time it will also be ended up with arguments and we both will asleep in an angry mood. So for this resolution, we are trying very hard now.

7. Make A Compromise

– Compromising! The most challenging resolution for partners because we all wanted things to be in our own way. Again, I still trying very hard. Like what Master Sun always say, before you want your partner to change, we have to look back on ourself first. Change our bad habit first and subsequently your partner will follow to suit you as well.

8. Keep The Third Party Out

 – This resolution I think I am doing quite well. Both our parents respect our privacy and they will not interfere in our personal lives. Thanks to our lovely parents, that is why we can be together for 11 years and more years to come.

9. Make Time For Sex

– Alright, this resolution. I can only say, Yes, we will improve it and make time for this. As usual, busy life, with tired work task and end up not in the mood. Sometimes, we do have this problem.

So, out of 9, I think I am only good at resolution 4. The other 8 resolutions, I guess I will still need to improve and adapt the habit into my daily life in order to have a happy relationship with my husband because we still have a long way to go. Maybe I should set a dateline to review myself again =)

Symptoms of Depression!

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Recently the biggest news on the television is about the K-Pop singer Kim Jong Hyun suicidal case. He left a note saying that he felt “broken from inside” and his depression has taken over his body where he couldn’t defeat it anymore.

I am not a big fan of Kim Jong Hyun but I feel sad because he is not very lucky like me. I was once a victim of depression but I might be at the very early stage because with the encouragement and advice from my colleague, I manage to go thru my bad time and I manage to escape out from the dark box.

Why do I say I was once a victim of depression because I was going through the list of the 10 Common symptoms of depression

  1. Feelings of helplessness and hopelessness. A bleak outlook—nothing will ever get better and there’s nothing you can do to improve your situation.
  2. Loss of interest in daily activities. You don’t care anymore about former hobbies, pastimes, social activities, or sex. You’ve lost your ability to feel joy and pleasure.
  3. Appetite or weight changes. Significant weight loss or weight gain—a change of more than 5% of body weight in a month.
  4. Sleep changes. Either insomnia, especially waking in the early hours of the morning or oversleeping.
  5. Anger or irritability.  Feeling agitated, restless, or even violent. Your tolerance level is low, your temper short, and everything and everyone get on your nerves.
  6. Loss of energy.  Feeling fatigued, sluggish, and physically drained. Your whole body may feel heavy, and even small tasks are exhausting or take longer to complete.
  7. Self-loathing. Strong feelings of worthlessness or guilt. You harshly criticize yourself for perceived faults and mistakes.
  8. Reckless behaviour. You engage in escapist behaviours such as substance abuse, compulsive gambling, reckless driving, or dangerous sports.
  9. Concentration problems. Trouble focusing, making decisions or remembering things.
  10. Unexplained aches and pains. An increase in physical complaints such as headaches, back pain, aching muscles, and stomach pain.

When I was going thru the symptoms, I realise out of 10 symptoms, 8 symptoms are happening to me. I do enjoy being alone, I hate communicate with people, I don’t want to meet people. My mind is full of negativity, I hate my life so much. Whatever happening I will always think is bad. I always feel that if tomorrow god ends my life, I will just accept it because I am useless.

Found some of the images of quotation how depression victim feels..
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Thank god, I am lucky because an angel who is very patient has guided me throughout this bad and negative moment. She introduces me to a book. A book that once a while I will still open up and read it to remind myself to always be gratitude and be grateful for everything that I have now. The book is Super Life Secret codes by Master Sun. So now, every day I am reminding myself to be gratitute because life is very simple. Each time when I wanted to get angry, I will try to change my mindset to positive mindset. I still practising the Super Life Secret Codes because is seriously not very easy. It sounds easy when you are reading but when you are asked to apply it to your life, you often overlook and your bad habit will re-appear. Thank you my angel, thank you Master Sun.

I sincerely pray for Kim Jong Hyun, and hope you rest in peace now in another world. I hope those with similar symptoms please seek help and advic the from expert or talk to your close friends and family before is too late as it will be very difficult to escape from the dark box if you are too deep inside.

 

Never Feel Tired EVER!

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I have been very tired recently due to lack of sleep. Not too sure the reason why and so  I ended up sleeping only like 3-4 hours only. My boss says I must be stress with my wedding preparation without noticing. I seriously not too sure about it too. Maybe I am stress with the wedding preparation because is getting nearer. I just not sure what is the reason I am not getting enough sleep recently.

I took my lunch time to go thru Magzter to read some magazines. My always favourite magazine is CLEO, Female, Shape. So while reading the September 2017 edition of CLEO, One of the articles attracted my attention.

This article is so talking about the situation I am facing now.  My energy really drains off faster than my mobile phone. They used phone battery as an example of our energy level. Just like the phone, the battery drains out fast when we have too many unfinished tasks and we leave behind lots of tabs which is running the OS. To avoid battery drain off, we have to close all the tabs.

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 So, I think I have too much unfinished To Do List not just at work but also at my house with additional things which is my wedding preparation. The first thing I really need to do is to get serious with my scheduling. I need to schedule the task and complete it in order to close the tab in my mind.

A Week Off From The Insincere World

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We have taken a week off from work to relax and to get away from the competitive world. The world where you face a lot of insincere people. While on leave, my dear fiancé faces some unhappy things but of course, life moves on and we let karma handle the rest. We tell ourself to enjoy every single moment we are together and appreciate every single day we have.

We went to PD Waterfront to have a walk and is a relaxing walk. Get to breathe the natural air and enjoy the clean wind blowing. Nature is always the best.

Then we went to Melaka to visit my uncle with my family. In the same time, one of the reasons we went to Melaka is to also purchase items for our wedding day. Chinese culture has a lot of rules and regulations. We take this opportunity to purchase some decorations items too.

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Since we are there, we also drop by the famous Jonker Street Night Market. Of course, the crowd is crazy because is a long public holiday for Malaysian. So everybody is squeezing each other while walking. We manage to buy some local food and drinks there. A lot of store selling the same thing but each store has their own speciality. I think is because the place has become a tourist area, the food is expensive as well. We bought spend RM10.00 for one stick of sausage and one stick of scallop and RM18.00 for the large mango drinks. The sausage is good but the scallop my fiance say is not so delicious. Guess is because it has been left there for a while and the food is cold.

We manage to buy some local food and drinks there. A lot of store selling the same thing but each store has their own speciality. I think is because the place has become a tourist area, the food is expensive as well. We bought spend RM10.00 for one stick of sausage and one stick of scallop and RM18.00 for the large mango drinks. The sausage is good but the scallop my fiance say is not so delicious. Guess is because it has been left there for a while and the food is cold. The mango drink is alright but of course, we requested not to put sugar water so end up is more natural mango taste and not to say very sweet. Just nice.

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After the Melaka trip, we rush back to KL because we have to attend our college best friends wedding ceremony at the temple. We are very glad to be invited to attend their ceremony because is an eye opener for both of us. Different culture different style of praying ceremony.

At the morning we went to Sri Maha Mariamman Temple as both of them is having the praying ceremony there. The setting up is so cheerful and colourful. Thereafter, the night was buffet style dinner for their relatives. 11 years of friendship. Friendship never end.

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I learning the Path To Peace. Today the path to peace says that Nothing Is More Virtuous Than Compassion, Sweeter Than Serenity, Purer Than Truth”. 

We just have to appreciate and love our family members and friends sincerely, the positive energy will always be with you. Tomorrow I will have to go back to the negative world, but I just have to maintain the positive mindset to eliminate the negative energy.

Amituofo-

You Are The Master Of Your Destiny

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Good morning Monday.

Don't blame others!

Start my week with positive quotes. Do not blame others for your own misfortune. You are the master of your destiny.  Some people without the right mindset, they only want to gain sympathy from others by complaining to others about their problem instead of truly resolving them. Bad energy will circle around you. Without you notice, blaming and complaining will become a habit.

Start the day with positive energy and your life will be happier.

Happiness Is About Forgiveness

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Is Monday today. The new week has started.

Yesterday I had spent my time trying to complete my Hello Kitty Crystal DIY puzzle. Of course, I did not manage to complete it. It takes a lot of time and patient in order to complete it. Is a good training to train my patient. There after, I logged in to my Facebook account to check on some updates. I notice this image which I have shared 2 years ago on Facebook. Not sure I get this image actually.

This sentence “The best revenge is always to just move on and let karma do the rest“. If a few months ago, I will have no doubt about this sentence. However now, I start to question this sentence. Is this a good advice or not a good advice.

I asked one of my senior which I am very close with if this is a good advice. Immediately she told me actually is a bad advice. The reason is, in order to be a good person with true happiness, you should not even think about revenge. You should forgive and move on. Both of us are learning to be a good person. Learning to be a happy person. Most important is we both are learning how to Love and be Gratitude. So I decided to use Canva.com  to note down this advice.

The world is big, we should not stay in unhappiness and live with unhappiness. As what Master Ted Sun says You need to be like a fully recharged battery, always energized with a sense of self-competence to avoid being influenced by external forces beyond your control.”

Let’s be happy together. Have a great Monday..

Self Healing is The Key to a Blissful Life

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Stop giving excuses and reasons that will delay your plan to achieve happiness!

Everybody wishes to have a better life, a blessed and blissful life. How to have a better life if most of the time you are being negative and giving your own self a lot of reason and excuses. Life is full of challenges at various point in life. If you do not stay strong, you will collapse in the negative energy world. Keep things simple and avoid complicated thoughts that may cause confusion and prevent from understanding the truth.

Keep things simple and avoid complicated thoughts that may cause confusion and prevent from understanding the truth” (Ted Sun).

Happy Friday and enjoy your weekend…

Life Quotes

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Don't allow someone to make you feel that you're not good enough!

My fiance is telling me that his superior is abusing his mental. I was shocked when he told me. I always hate the corporate world, that is why I always walk away from people who are playing the corporate game. To me, I am working because I need to earn money and I am a hunger for knowledge too. Not necessary to be the top in the company but to be top for my own life.

He is telling me that every day his superior will be picking him, telling him he is not good and not doing well. Even though the mistake is not by him, it will become his problem too. He tries to ignore and move on, but recently he is feeling very tired. He told me he worries he will lose his confidence if he continues staying in the company. I guess his superior is indirectly abusing him. Mental abuse.

My advice to him is, move on even without getting a new job because if he continues being mentally abuse, he will lose more confidence. I’m not too sure it will be a good choice but is better than being abuse indirectly. Is there any way I able to help him to feel better? I wish to learn more.

Are You Happy? If You Are Not, Why?

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Reading broadens your mind and thinking. However, is also really depends on what material or articles your are reading. I am guessing that the types of material and article you read really depend on your age category. However, no matter what you read, if you do not practice it and always take things for granted it will still lead you to negative path.

When I was a teenager, I love to read a love story and mystery story. Most of it is a fictional story. Why I do love to read a love story because it makes me feel loved and living in a happily ever after life. Why do I love to read a mystery story, because at the beginning of the story the author will always make you feel anxious and you will have to read till the end to have happily ever after ending. When I was a teenager, I have no stress, no commitment and I don’t to worry about money, installment and house loan.  That is why I always tell myself, I am a lucky girl.

When I finish my college degree and start working in the corporate world, I start to read NonFiction material and article. The author I love the most is Cathy Glass, a wonderful and caring foster carer. If I remember correctly, her first book that I read was Another Forgotten Child. Is about unlucky girl Aimee’s life. How can a small girl life be so cruel? While reading my tears will flow down automatically because I feel so sad for Aimee. From that moment, I realise that not everyone is as lucky as me. Of course towards the end, is was a happy ending, however, the journey Aimee is not supposed to travel by a little girl. That is why I start to appreciate my parents and everything I have without being demanding.

When I reached the age of approximately 27 (I think). I start to read a lot about how to live a better life. At that age, I was in the corporate world for about 6 years, I have observed a lot of negative action where I name them as “Negative Drama In Corporate World”. The reason why is because no one is sincere in the corporate world.  Of course maybe not all, but out of 100%, maybe 98% is not sincere. Everybody stick with you for a reason. You call yourself a best friend of mine, but when there is a problem, instead of solving together, you start blaming. There is where I start to complain and being very rebellious. I start to hate people who betray me. I start to isolate myself from everybody. I start to become a bossy person and do not trust anybody including my partner who is with me for about 11 years now. I tell myself, I can live alone and I can do everything by myself. Subsequently, I start to be very bad tempered. I get frustrated even with small things. This negative energy attaches with me for 2 years.

I guess I am really a lucky person. God loves me and cares about me. For 2 years I have been living in an unhappy life. My relationship with my partners getting worst that we nearly end our relationship. When my life is turning into disaster path, my superior who just return back from her long leave (due to personal reason) gave me a book which I have share on my previous post, Superlife Secretcodes by Great Sun. This books changes my whole life. Master Sun teaches us how to be a happy person, how to look things in different way. How to be more positive and how to eliminate negative energy? I am still practicing now and also requested my partner to read together and practice together so that we can learn together as we are getting marry soon.

I slowly realise that life can be so simple, why do we need to make it so complicated. I start to read more about Living Happily. Ways and steps to be more positive thinking. Live in minimalist lifestyle. Last time when I read lifestyle magazine, I will survey what are the new things to buy, but now I will just glance thru those pages with fashions, branded materials. I will normally concentrate on the good article share by others.

I read this article yesterday. Shared by Ng Siew Yen. Population of unhappy people is growing and if it continues, we will  be facing with more commit suicide case, people will live without love and care. Human will stop to Love and Gratitude. Why wait to be Happy? Just like what Siew Yen say,  we deserved to be Happy Now and Always.

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FEMALE MAGAZINE MALAYSIA – JUNE 2017

 

 

Now, I know, reading is good, reading good material and article is also good, but we also have to practice, learn and always remember to Love and be gratitude. I am still learning and that is why I created this blog, is to journal down my Colourful Life. Be happy guys, because we will not know what will happen tomorrow. Let our God decide and we just need to continue to live happily.

 

 

 

 

Me & You (Photoblog)

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Me & You,

We will grow old together,

We will walk through all the challenges together,

We will stay happy together,

We will enjoy every single moment and create sweet memory together,

We will love each other together,

Together, we will create a happy family until the end of our life.

-Me & You-

 

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Me & You