So, do you want to be Happy?
If your answer is YES, then we have to stop complaining. “When you really want to be happy, you quit complaining” (Andrew Matthews). If we have hit a crisis, we have to learn to conquer it and be flexible to face and adjust any changes and challenges.
Andrew Matthews taught us to have plan B always. I reflect back myself I always feel frustrated when the outcome did not turn up as what I expected. So now, each time I expected the outcome, I need to make sure I able to adjust the changes to plan B so that I will not disappoint myself.
I realise most of Happy People, they embrace changes. “Happy People welcome change” (Andrew Matthews). Changes allow you to learn more thing. Sometimes, the negative thought makes us unhappy. So we have to learn to change and control our negative thought.
In order to be a Happy Person, Andrew Matthews also taught us to face the facts. There is a certain time, we are running away from facts that are where leading us to more negative thinking. Face the facts and learn to resolve any problem. I am learning not to avoid the problem. Instead, I tell myself to resolve every problem that occurs so that I will not face the same problem. I just have to open my minds and move forward.
In order to be Happy Person, we also need to adapt good habit.
Happiness is synthetic—you either create it, or you don’t. Happiness that lasts is earned through your habits. Supremely happy people have honed habits that maintain their happiness day in, day out. (Forbes, 10 Habits of Incredibly Happy People,2017 02 14)
Forbes tabulated 10 habits of Happy People:
- They slow down to appreciate life’s little pleasures
- They exercise
- They spend money on other people
- They surround themselves with the right people
- They stay positive
- They get enough sleep
- They have deep conversations
- They help others
- They make an effort to be happy
- They have a growth mindset
I am practising at least 7 habits as listed above. Still learning and still exploring. I am learning. Learning together with my fiance. We want to have a healthy relationship and lovely lifestyle.