6 Excuses Postponing Happiness

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Time seriously flies in a second because #TGIF has arrived. I have been focusing reading my motivation books. Reminding myself to ensure I continue searching #MyColourfulLife. I am trying to master two wonderful books. One of the books is Super Life SecretCodes by Master Sun. Another one is Happiness  In Hard Times by Andrew Matthews.

I am practising very hard now on those principles and ways both authors suggested. I realise, is easy to read and understand, but is seriously not easy to remember it and practice. I have the tendency to forget and continue with my bad habit.

I love Andrew Matthews book because of the colours and cartoon in the books. At the same time, there are case studies of real life scenario in order for you to understand better. I remember reading this Happiness In Hard Times a few years back. I think I have read it but I am not practising it because I am seriously going thru Hard Times now.

I think is good that I note it down each time I finish one chapter. This is to remind Me, and also to share with everyone who willing to read my journey.

The first Chapter is about Acceptance.

Andrew is telling us to accept where you are and to forget about blame, forget about guilt, forget about “what ifs” and move forward. I really want to note down and highlighted a few points from this chapter which is:

  • Acceptance means: “This is where I am – and now I move on to what I want.”
  • Acceptance isn’t giving up. Acceptance is recognition that, “This is part of my journey”.
  • Acceptance is power.

This is so true. In order to change, we have to accept we, ourself. Instead of complaining and compiling all the negative energy into our mind.

“Life is like a movie. It’s not the length but the quality that matters”. If you are not happy with yourself, no matter how long you live in this world, you will still be negative and unhappy and life will be very hard and if you continue being negative, you will not be able to love other people. Not until you learn to love yourself.

One of the applicant name Adrian reminds the readers that good thing happens in small steps. Look for good things, focus on the present and do what you can do today.

What interest me the most and is very true where is happening to me is we are giving too many excuses and end up we are postponing our happiness. There are 6 Excuses which is emphasised in the book and I am reviewing myself how many excuses I am using:

  1. If I were somewhere else, I’d be happy.

Seriously, this is so ME. I am just running away from the situation. If I run away with the problem without solving it, anywhere I go, I will still encounter the same unhappiness because I bring my bad habit and negative thinking with me.

   2. If I were older or younger- I’d be happy

Not me. I never use this excuse before. I never worry about age because I never know who am I and what I want. I now start to worrying about my age, because I realise if I do not figure out myself now, I am seriously in deep trouble because I still have a long journey to go.

    3. When I meet the perfect partner I’ll be Happy!

This excuse honestly happens on me. I have been with my fiance for 10 years and 6months. Along the journey, we have gone thru a lot of challenges. Happiness, sadness, disappointment, angry and much more. When you are in one relationship too long and you did not learn to understand each other more, and not learning to compromise, then you will lose the spark. I am lucky, very lucky one because I manage to eliminate the negativity energy that affected our relationship. I learn to love him more and learn not to run away from disagreement but confront and discuss with him on the same day. So far, we are planning for our wedding photo shooting which is happening in this coming May and our wedding dinner at end of November.

    4. If I didn’t have these problems I’d be happy!

I guess every one of us who yet to discover the right thinking will use this excuses to avoid happiness. We always avoid the problem. When there is a problem occur, you either blame another person, or you will just keep quite and run away from solving it. This is what I am trying very hard to adapt it. I learning how to accept problem which already happened and instead of complaining, I find a solution to resolved it. This will also avoid small problem becoming a big problem.

   5. If Only I Had That!

Very true excuse all of us is using. Even myself. That is why I end up realised that I own a lot of stuff. All these stuff actually is unnecessary and not all the thing I owned I am using, so end up it took up my cabinet storage. I might be thrilled the 1st day and 2nd day, but subsequently, I don’t feel anything anymore and end up is just going to be a display item in the cabinet.

   6. I’ll be happy when…

This excuse, I think is displaying my current situation where I am telling myself “I think I will be happy if I know what I want to do and what is my passion”. So, meaning to say that if I cannot find MYSELF and my passion I will continue to be sad. How can I discover MYSELF and discover my passion if my mind is full of negative thinking and energy? That is why I choose to blog my journey because expressing myself through blog makes me happy and also I able to track my journey.

In a Nutshell – The happiest people aren’t waiting for anything to happen. They learn to accept the current position and move forward. I slowly discover my happiness by blogging and by reading. =)

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